it takes a village

originally published in the jewish women’s archive. also published in lilith magazine and the new york jewish week

over the years, i’ve been to countless bar and bat mitzvah ceremonies. while each one has been unique to the specific teen being honored, all of the services have been catered to the typical jewish kid: one who can read english and some hebrew, memorize prayers, and stand at the bimah and speak about about his or her jewish education and life experiences. in february, i had the honor of being part of a bar mitzvah that was unlike any of the others i had previously attended. my family friend max became a bar mitzvah without speaking a single word…